Nowadays, a lot of markers in a cemetery are ones that are flush with the ground. I really hate those, too. It not only makes it hard to find your family member (no interesting landmarks to guide your way), it just seems so impersonal.
I went to a Dragons game on Saturday (they lost – big time) and came away with the last name for my heroine in Book 5 (Alien Desires). Sure, I already had a name picked out, but I couldn't resist using the catcher's name. It just sounded so…right. So, instead of Annie Wolfe, I now have Annie O'Shea. And I think she's much happier with it. I know I am.
For you writers out there – has that ever happened to you? Do names just come out of the blue?